The best place to start is in bed. If you’re the giver, start by sitting with your back against the headboard. Put a pillow or two between your legs and another on your chest. If her hair is long, have her put it up before you start.
If you’re the receiver, nestle between your lover’s legs with your back against their chest. The pillows let you relax without getting sweaty or itchy against your partner’s skin. I like to put a towel across the pillow so no massage oil gets on the pillowcase.
After you’re both comfortably settled, resist the urge to rush to her breasts. Feather your fingers out from the center of her chest onto her breasts. Your only “goal” at this stage is to bring a lot of blood to her breast tissue so that her breasts begin to feel spongy and bouncy.
You are kneading, rolling, tapping — using your fingers to delight and engorge her breast tissue.
Try soft tickles and light traces of your fingernails across her skin. Feel below the skin as you touch her flesh. Move your attention from the skin to tissue beneath the skin. Ask her what feels best. Ask her to guide you by saying what feels most delicious.
As she relaxes into your arms, pour a generous amount of massage oil onto your hands. (I like organic coconut oil because it’s so natural you can eat it.) Cover your hands with oil ― front and back like you’re washing your hands ― so you apply a film of oil over your hands up to your wrists. Then you can use all the surface area of your hands to stimulate her skin.
First start by slowly applying warm massage oil onto her arms, shoulders and collarbone. Then and only then slather warm oil onto her breasts. Avoid her nipples at first. That would be too much sensation. (A lot of men make the mistake of going right for a woman’s nipples like their tuning a radio. Not good.) What you want to do is wake up her skin receptors.
From there, you work all around every area. Go from arms to shoulders to sternum and down to her breasts. Cup each breast, swirl your fingertips around the base of her breasts, and stimulate her “underboob” area―the place where the seam attaches her breast tissue to her chest.
Run your well-oiled fingertips from the bottom of her breastbone up to her throat. Feather your fingers out from the center of her chest onto her breasts.